As a single mother I think I am very glad to NOT be in Wisconsin at the moment. You will not find a LESS abused child than mine lol. She is one of the happiest, politest three year old girls you could hope to meet. She's a good kid (most of the time, everyone has bad days lol) and smart as a whip, her language skill are off the chart and we work on them by playing games and practicing spelling and reading signs.
It would have been abusive to try and keep her sperm donor in her life. He flat admitted that if he didn't think he'd make a good father and that he would find it tempting to screw with any kid mentally. Something I am NOT willing to allow into my child's life. We are happy and content without him, he's never seen her and she knows that while she doesn't have a Daddy, she has a Mommy, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins that love her very much. She's started to ask and make comments about a "Daddy" but when I tell her she doesn't seem to care. We've talked about the fact that not all families are the same, that some kids live with a mom and dad, some live with just a mom or just a dad, some live with their grand parents, some have two moms or two dads etc but that what's important is that she has LOTS of people who love her.
To have someone say she is more likely to be abused, or that I am more likely to be a bad mother, because it's just the two of us pisses me off! I don't need her SD in her life and to that end he is not on her birth certificate, I don't go after him for support, and he stays away from MY child. It's the best resolution for everyone. When she's 18 (and thus a legal adult) if she wants to go find him and ask him questions I will give her his name and the last known address for him and let her search.
Why can't politicians stay the hell out of my parental decisions? There is enough wrong with the country at the moment that they really should have more to do then denigrate those parents who are just trying to do the best for their children under less than ideal conditions.