Would it bother you...

[Serenity Vixen]

If your significant other has a last fling at the Bachelor Party/Bridal Shower before marrying you?


I know, I know. Really weird things occur to me in the middle of the night, isn't it great that I share them with you?

Does that make 2 questions... err 3 questions?  :P

[Jefepato]

Unless there's some very special circumstances at hand (e.g. it's going to be an open marriage), I should think so.

And yes, it's great.

And yes, it does.

[Serenity Vixen]

For my own answers...
I really do not see myself getting married. I am happily in an open relationship with a girl I love. I believe marriage is something sacred between two people, and would only take that step of both of us decided on it ((and if we can still find a state that allows it :P)) .

If I did get married though, I do not think anything that happened before the ceremony would bother me. I am in an open relationship now, and it would not officially close until the ceremony itself. I realize that my relationship is unusual though, which is why I am curious about other peoples :)

[Cherri Tart]

i guess, for me, it would depend - did s/he talk to me about it first?  get my permission?  do i know the person they had a fling with?  was i told about it after or was it kept secret?   i would be ok as long as she was honest about it with me and we talked about it before hand as well as after.  :)

[Serenity Vixen]

Valid points. I would probably get upset if it were done behind my back and they tried to conceal it from me

[Cherri Tart]

*nods*  if it was just one of those spur of the moment things, and i was told afterwards, and there was, of course, safe sex involved - and yes, i know that my views on such activities are unconventional at best, but i believe that sex and love are 2 different animals and if i know i have my partners heart, i'm ok with what they do with their body as long as they are honest with me about it.