Ya Dak I understand, I'm trying to be more flexible. But it is hard when the same scenario repeats itself over three to four different sites.
Well, that's what I'm saying. It's a universal thing. These sites are nice as it brings a common group together, but within this group there are different temperaments, preferences, etc. Ons and Offs. :) Of the thousands there, only a handful may be compatible. Try using the Player search (click "Players" at the top of the page), poke through the request forums and post your own requests.
Trust me... it IS frustrating, but don't take it personally. You're fabulous. Not everyone will see that, but those who do are the ones that matter anyway.
Ok, that's more for real life, but it's a good thing to keep in mind. :)