I suffered from adhd as a child (though at the time it was just considered I was a bad kid..lol this is before ADD and the riddilin bandwagon) But since my daughter has sever adhd (she is medicated and takes behavior therapy) I look at her symptoms and recognize that was exactly how i was as a child. As an adult I have Adult ADD and while i dont take medication for it I have lived with it so long I hae learned the various tricks to keep my mind from wandering (Writing helps tremendously, as well as post it notes evvvvvery where).
As a child I had a horrible time in grade school all the way through 8th grade. I would have notes sent home about how I wouldnt sit still, how I was constantly moving around, how I kept forgetting the assignments due ect ect. It wasn't until my high school years that I started to buckle down (I started to get the maturity to realize what was going on and started to be able to develope tricks and tips to help focus myself) suddenly after 9th grade they shoved me in AP English courses..>.> Yeah..look at any of my stories and anyone can see I barely know the rudiments of english.
That is because in Kentucky they put through KERA and basically I am not sure what it was suppose to do to help the education system but it completely screwed me over. After seventh grade not a drop of grammar was taught it was focused on creative writing due to the need for a proficient writing portfolio to graduate. I moved to Louisiana in the middle of my senior year, after coasting through three ap english classes, and was stuck in ap english four there..which was a major eye opener. I struggled so hard in that class because everyone else had been studying and learning sentance structure and knew more then just basic nouns, verbs, and so forth.
the point being, this article (which I have read the other day and found it facinating) actualy does hit quite on the money. It's one thing to build your child's self confidence, and it is not by no means saying that you should never praise your child, but don't tell them they are smart just..for breathing. I make sure I praise my daughter for every A she brings home, but I also dont belittle her when she brings home a lower grade. I sit her down, talk to her and find out why she got a lower grade..theres usually a pretty good reason a child is struggling, and talking to them without judging is a perfect way of finding that reason and working ways to work through it.