Some would say, that life is but a series of random events and we are powerless against them, but those might be called nihilists in my book. No, in my opinion, I think that the choices we make are more our own decisions combined, in tandom, with the options we are given in life. Therefore, philosophically and spiritually speaking, we are the decisions we make and how we respond, or react to them. So, one could say if a young person tries on fandom of a certain comic book for example, and goes to a convention, but then is dissapointed by the outcome, well they made their choice and now will have the option of choosing another path, or not.
vile, bile, revile