You might consider him 'borderline transgendered" but no he doesn't hide his gender. If you know about female Pharaohs and some other female leaders in patriarchies they would often dress as men and take male titles "Son of Osiris" rather then daughter. It's similar in this case, he is "first daughter" because "first son" is a very different role in a dark elf house. He killed the other daughters that held the position until it was given to him and he held it. He is a matriarch because that's the capacity he acts in, Drow society doesn't have a patriarch and if they did the role would be vastly different.
It makes it a bit easier for the other priestesses to swallow too since their system hasn't changed. The male (Abduxuel is his name) has gained this prestige only by playing the game as a female. Consequently any of the male and female equality factions despise him, as a Vhaerunite might say "Abduxuel Archwinter? One of the most dangerous and terrifying priestesses I've ever seen. Don't mistake him for a potential ally, he is as ruthless as any other matriarch and twice as insane" Rule wise id even say he meets any "requirement: female" and doesn't meet any "requirement: male".
While I'm really excited about this, if I'm not wanted in your game I understand. I'll be dissipation but do let me know if you're just trying to tell me "buggar off" without sounding harsh.
My big issue is that you're kind of using the wrong example. It's not a case of Pharoahs, where the laws require a man, and so a man is played. You're talking a black man running for governorship of Texas before the American Civil War; this is active disapproval, not some strong social norm that can be twisted. I don't have a problem with you, or your idea, except that it doesn't fit within the context of the society. Males just don't get into the priesthood; once again, show me documentation, and you're in with open arms, but without some evidence it just seems to ignore too much of what this game is meant to emulate. The inbalance between males and females is meant to be a fundamental premise and challenge of the game.
As a side note, the GM is back.
And as for Snake, a point-buy ensures that every character has completely equal stats in terms of amount. WHERE that potential is spent is what differentiates. And 32-point is very high, but remember that we're supposed to be playing the upper echelons of a society that runs on sadomasochism and Darwinism on steroids. We HAVE to be the best of the best to get where we are.
As for the template issue, so long as it's reasonably believable that form of half-drow would be found in the city, I see no reason why not. Take into account the level adjustment (I'm not sure if the drow LA and the template LA add together, might want to be careful with that), and don't pull out some dusty sourcebook you haven't looked at in a year and go 'what's the most obscure, unimaginable mixture I can come up with?'. A big point to make on the LA is that if your template doesn't give you some extra hit points, and you end up a level 4 character or something like that, remember that even most pure caster drow are going to have better hit points than you are. And better and more powerful spells. It can make a huge (and possibly lethal) difference.
On a final note, will be getting to work on my character ASAP, hope everyone does the same, especially our potential Matrons.