Yes I have a thought. Hope that is okay.
I believe that family thinks they can say whatever they want, because they can always say, "I love you."
The "I love you" is always there, and seems to be a means of automatic forgiveness. Which to me is a crock of BS. I think family mean what they say, but try to say it in a way that makes it so they have to be forgiven. I think when a family member says to you exactly what they feel, and not worrying about your feelings is rude and uncharacteristic of what a family should be. Sure, blood is thicker than water, but emotions and feelings shouldn't be thrown to the side, just because they are family. Don't get me wrong, I love my family. But, I do my best to protect my family from all of the outside BS.
Maybe I am just rambling as well. Just a few thoughts from the peanut gallery...