Offensive Usernames

[Greenthorn]

Maybe I'm being picky, maybe I'm being snobby, maybe I'm being *gasp* too mature, but some of the recent usernames coming in are quite offensive...even to me.  I'd like to see a change in the rules maybe, to keep usernames either unsexualized, or in the very least PG-13.  Sorry but if the shoutbox is public and some of those usernames are there *shudders*.

I have nothing against the -people-, just their preferred usernames.  Exploded Condom, Captain Cockface...*shakes head* I wouldn't want even my mother to see those names!

[Sherona]

*grins* We have also had a Scrotum and a Pussy Licker :) all shudder-full names. While I love the idea of a rule of being unsexualized however, this could be interpreted quite broadly. Peole with names that have titles commonly used in BDSM could be seen as sexualized names...Dominatrix, Master, Slave...


I would really like to see perhaps a "suggestion" if its possible, upon account creation talking about the sensibilities of these names. ok, I really cant find a nice gentle way of saying what I am about to say...and please forgive me in advance for any offense I cause...


We belong to a site that allows erotic RP, but I happen to think that teh majority of the people here are classy individuals, and perhaps suggest that ..crude names...might set them off on the wrong foot?

[Greenthorn]

You're right, "sexualized" was probably not the best term...but PG-13 is more fitting :)  (In word and meaning)

[Caeli]

You're not the only one. I'd like to see new members refrain from the use of crude or vulgar words in their chosen handles here on Elliquiy. =/

[Sherona]

*sighs and gathers Caeli and GT into her "prude club"" hehehe :P

[Caeli]

*sighs and gathers Caeli and GT into her "prude club"" hehehe :P

*hides under Sherona's hair* Well, I mean, with names like those, what are we even supposed to call them? It just seems so awkward...

[Sherona]

*hides under Sherona's hair* Well, I mean, with names like those, what are we even supposed to call them? It just seems so awkward...

lol I am now imagining a scene at the local mall

Sherona> Hey Caeli guess who I just ran into?
Caeli> Who?
Sherona> I ran into Pussy Licker and CocknBalls..we had a riot even though we kept getting funny looks whenever I addressed one in name..

[The Great Triangle]

I think a prohibition against using words you couldn't say in a PG rated film would work out pretty well.  

A general style note that numbers in names are unnecessary might also be nice, but on the other hand, underage users have been caught before because they included their real ages or birthdates as numbers in their name, so we might as well let that in.

*goes ahead and joins the prude club, if only to get some hot prude action*

Really, if there's going to be sexual user names, they should at least be veiled in layers of innuendo.

[Kathadon]

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Visa, Master card, libray card, heck any card is excepted.

[ShrowdedPoet]

You take foodstamps cards?

[Kathadon]

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[Trieste]

The line between 'tasteful' and 'offensive' is a very fine one, and one that shifts a lot. The only line we have in the rules re: offensive is the stuff banning personal attacks, and it's for a reason.

To some people, the non-con section is offensive.

To some people, the vanilla section is boring and not what they want to read.

To some people, the exotic sections are just not right.

To some people, the bondage section is just totally not their thing.

Do I even need to mention the extreme section?

In that light, if someone puts together a username that says "URMOMFCKSGOATS", then it would be against the rules and we would ask them to change it. But considering the variety of people we have here, it seems awfully close-minded to look down on something not because it's against the rules, but because it 'isn't decent' or something similar.

[Kalen]

Actually, considering that usernames will be publically visible, I don't think it's all that unreasonable that they get restricted to a PG-13 level.  Maybe that could part of the 'maturity' clause that the Sirens, God and Goddesses have to consider when looking at a new user?  Some people might have to be asked to change their name.


t'is just my 2 cents.

[Kathadon]

Pg-13 names should be the limit just because of site rules for publicly visible content. Which includes the Shoutbox.

There. *puts another 2 cents in the jar and goes to huck his Nickname generator elsewhere*

[Valerian]

It is, unfortunately, an awfully fine line.  However, since guests do see the Shoutbox and some forums, names really should have to be PG-13 as well.  It's just harder to decide what qualifies as PG-13 in that case.  Is 'Whipsandchains' acceptable?  Not an easy thing to set down in a rule.

On the other hand, earlier today the Shoutbox was full of messages from 'Exploded Condom' and 'Captain Cockface', and if I was a visitor seeing that, I'd leave without looking any further.   :P

[Sherona]

On the other hand, earlier today the Shoutbox was full of messages from 'Exploded Condom' and 'Captain Cockface', and if I was a visitor seeing that, I'd leave without looking any further.

I would do the same *nodnods*

[Trieste]

Captain Cockface is underage and has been restricted... no longer an issue for the moment.

There is really nothing not-PG-13 about Exploded Condom or Scrotum...

I believe 'Pussy Licker' is the only name out of the given examples that actually fits the non-PG-13 tag. Don't get me wrong ... explicit names in public places is one thing, but my point is that 'offensive' is not a guideline.

[Sherona]

Captain Cockface is underage and has been restricted... no longer an issue for the moment.

There is really nothing not-PG-13 about Exploded Condom or Scrotum...

I believe 'Pussy Licker' is the only name out of the given examples that actually fits the non-PG-13 tag. Don't get me wrong ... explicit names in public places is one thing, but my point is that 'offensive' is not a guideline.

I believe that the only thing that was mentioned as a guideline was Sexualized and PG-13, GT mentioned some of the names were offensive to her, but stated her suggestion as teh above. I agreed with the pg-13 and voiced why I thought the sexualized names would be too generalized to make into a rule.

Indeed Explosive Condom falls just short of crossing the PG-13 but perhaps just a friendly reminder where people upon sign up can see that Names are first impression, and that one should be careful about their names :)

[Valerian]

*is apparently a prude*

Yeah, there really isn't a simple guideline that will work for this, I'm afraid.  Perhaps just a gentle mention in some FAQ or intro somewhere to think twice about the name you choose, if that's acceptable.

They are hurting themselves, too, in a way, since they may very well be limiting the number of others who would want to roleplay with them...

[Sherona]

*is apparently a prude*

Yeah, there really isn't a simple guideline that will work for this, I'm afraid.  Perhaps just a gentle mention in some FAQ or intro somewhere to think twice about the name you choose, if that's acceptable.

They are hurting themselves, too, in a way, since they may very well be limiting the number of others who would want to roleplay with them...

Or associate withthem OOCly :/


*welcomes Valerian into the Prude club*

[Xillen]

Exploding Condom renamed herself, if I'm not mistaken, to ExCo, which fixes the other issue, though I admit, I had a lot less problem with that name than with the Cockface one (though I'm tolerateable enough to accept either), since the Condom nick mostly seemed to make fun of herself.

[Sherona]

I, for one, was not horribly upset by explosive condom, though it did make me cringe...cockface, pussylicker yeah..these two really does go beyond the pg-13ness of public places and did put me at unease.


But I was referring to future sign ups rather then already in sign ups.

[Valerian]

*welcomes Valerian into the Prude club*

Woo, I'm in a club!  *dances, discreetly*


Yes, I was thinking more for the future, also -- it's just seemed in danger of becoming a trend, recently.

[Paradox]

*edges his way into the room, standing with the proud prudes*

One disturbing trend I've noticed is that it isn't just people who walk in off the proverbial street (google) that choose these names. Some of them have actually been recruited by members.

[ShrowdedPoet]

*edges his way into the room, standing with the proud prudes*

One disturbing trend I've noticed is that it isn't just people who walk in off the proverbial street (google) that choose these names. Some of them have actually been recruited by members.

Not I said the little girl with the big hat. . .

[Captain Maltese]

Why stop at sexualized names? How about Snotface and Pisspants?

[Paradox]

I think Pussy Licker could have joined as Cunning Linguist or something of that sort. It's not that hard to make a name tasteful and clever while still retaining the original meaning.

As for Captain Cockface...I'm stumped on that one.

[Greenthorn]

Captain Cockadoodledoo

Captain PenileImplantOnaChin

*blinks*

[Paradox]

Captain MaleMember, Captain Chickenface...even Captain Dick might have been okay, since Dick is an actual first name; whereas, I doubt anyone has "Cockface Jones" on their birth certificate.

[Hannibal]

I'm with the prudes on this tricky area. I think that adding an explanatory note in the rules or when creating account might be useful that says something to the effect of:

Full membership is restricted to those who have displayed such an acceptable level of maturity. Please understand that when selecting your username you are sending potential signals that may be used to judge your level of maturity.

It doesn't specify any rules on usernames, but does provide a not so subtle hint for new members to consider when creating their handle :)

[Ariabella]

*joins the prude club as well* I was thinking on this earlier this week but thought it was just me. I think it was int he moment that I read Elvi asking Exploded Condom if she really wanted to be known as Condom. The names do give me the wrong idea about a lot of them and I'm more than likely going to not agree to play with someone called Cockface. Nor would I probably join the site if I saw that, for it would question maturity for me. *goes back to her lurking in ooc things*

[Trieste]

*nods* Hannibal's way of putting it is a good way to word it. I don't disagree that some usernames are inappropriate... it's when people start talking about the oh-so-subjective O-word *nods to topic subject* that I get nervous.

[MagicalPen]

I'm with Trieste on this one...along the lines of what Hannibal said up above. Some names are shockers, to say the least, and apparently Captain Cockface was underage (correct?) which goes a long way to explaining that one. Hannibals little clause would work best and satisfy the demands of all parties. It won't fully prevent such 'offensive' names in the future, but it might steer a few away from using such names.

[Xillen]

If you go that way, you might apply it to the avatars as well?

[Elvi]

That is already in the rules Xillen:

Content and Decency Rules - Specific rules about what may be posted:

Racy avatars are allowed, but at worst, it can be highly suggestive. No genitals allowed, nothing that could be too obviously seen as porn from a distance. There are a lot of parents on this site, and people who browse in public places. Please respect that.

[Xillen]

Ah, ok, must've missed that. My bad.

[Stattick]

Exploding Condom renamed herself, if I'm not mistaken, to ExCo...

Ahhhh... she should have renamed herself Holy Condom.

[Elohim]

Ahhhh... she should have renamed herself Holy Condom.

That name seriously amuses me..

[Stattick]

That name seriously amuses me..

The halo is a guiding light... And it's winged, for her pleasure.  :D

[Cherri Tart]

ok, chiming in here.  Let's forget about the rating for a moment.  I'm sorry, but if i come across a cap. c**kface, i'm most likely not going to bother trying to have a conversation or get to know them - am i a prude? no.  am i a snob? no.  Do i think that such a name its a HUGE show of immatturity?  yes.  honestly, it's a total turn off.  it's crude.  There's a difference between sexy and crude.  Just a thought for all those interested in using such names - most likely a lot of people will associate you with your name and push you into the 'don't bother' file. 

[Paradox]

Yeah, I suppose you're right, Cherri. If I came across someone named Cuntbag McCreamsalot or another equivalent female name, I wouldn't give them the time of day unless/until they proved that they could carry on a mature conversation, either in one of the boxes or in a game with someone else. I'd still be polite to them, but that's about it.

[Jefepato]

I'm not bothered at all by these usernames.  I don't care what you call yourself if you're willing to accept people's reactions.

In fact, it's terribly kind of them to let me know straight off that I won't be interested in playing with them.  I wish it was that easy with everyone!

[Elvi]

Can I just mention a couple of things about what has been/is being said in this thread.

Firstly, that this is NOT an excuse to use foul language so please, stop the 'c' words and 'f' words and any other slang terms for genitalia or sexual acts.
If we are talking about signs of maturity, then perhaps we should lead by example?

Secondly, I am not really happy about a members name being used as an example in this topic and then laughed about in the manner that it has been done.
Exploding Condom, has shown maturity and has changed her name, so is it actually mature to rub her nose in it and continue to use this as an example AND start discussing what SHE should have done?

Finally my take on user names.
I hate having to address people who have user names that don't 'mean anything', how can I relate to XSV129hjK or 1234567890, or the like, the answer is simple, I can't.
I hate addressing people with names that are some sort of slang be it crude, obscene or simply i4u2.
I hate reading huge long user names that are a sentence all run into one like iwanttobeyourswillyoubemine.

The solution, as I see it.
Explain that we do not tend to use real names on this site and that our user name is what we are called, then 'suggest' that those signing up should use something that they would prefer to be known as while they are here.

[Paradox]

1. Sorry, it was mildly amusing. Any names I mentioned were ones that I have actually seen on other sites, except for those two variations of Captain.

2. Yes, it is fitting. Regardless of what she's done since then, she still signed up with a vulgar name. That gives us every right to discuss it in the midst of a larger discussion on inappropriate names in general.

As for your take on names, I agree for the most part. Clear, concise names are much easier to relate to. I suppose that when someone finds out that their desired name has already been taken, or that someone already has a very similar name, they feel discouraged and just come up with a half-assed alternative; on the other hand, they may be coming from sites where usernames like "Xxbl0ndzGurl0nf1re99xX" are the norm, so they are used to being surrounded by annoyingly nonsensical nomenclature.

Edit-

For me, names with no capitalization add to the effect that Elvi mentioned. It makes them seem meek or inconsequential. I know this has nothing to do with it being offensive though. I've just noticed that a lot of the new members of younger ages have had those sort of names.

[BentNotBroken]

When i first saw "ExplodedCondom" i laughed my ass off. I thought it was pretty clever and funny.

Am I the only one that thought it was funny? :o

[Greenthorn]

You know...bodily fluids do not squick me (using Sherona's word) but the thought of bodily fluids exploding from latex...does haha

[Nathan]

All I can say is

...I've gotten some great ideas for baby names from this thread!  ;D

[BentNotBroken]

LOL ;D

[Paradox]

All I can say is

...I've gotten some great ideas for baby names from this thread!  ;D

Now that's just ridiculous!

[Caity]

What's wrong with names with numbers in them?

[Sherona]

You know...bodily fluids do not squick me (using Sherona's word) but the thought of bodily fluids exploding from latex...does haha

I have been playing a game with Vekseid for almost as long as I have been a member of this forum..I can say for certain that bodily fluids don't squick me at all..;)

[Elvi]

Really Paradox?
I didn't see it as a 'vulgar' name, I simply saw it as an object that I couldn't really relate to a person.
A condom isn't vulgar, it's an object, a type of birth control made from latex, nothing vulgar in that at all.

With your way of thinking, we could have a conversation about those who sign up with certain names and then run around attempting to wipe them out because they have got themselves into trouble in using them?
We could name the name they were using, say what the name they are using now, suggest alternatives, have a little laugh about it all, say how silly they were.


Caity,
There is nothing wrong with Caity29, however, I wonder why bother with the 29, odes it actually have any meaning whatsoever on this site?

After all, those that do that, regardless of what they have done since then, they still signed up with an unsuitable name (for them) and that gives us every right to discuss it in the midst of a larger discussion on inappropriate names in general.

[Paradox]

What's wrong with names with numbers in them?

Nothing is wrong with names with numbers, persay. It's just names that make no sense at all often include numbers.

[Caity]

I generally attach a number to my name, because the name I want is already taken.  And the number does have a meaning to me...

[Paradox]

Really Paradox?
I didn't see it as a 'vulgar' name, I simply saw it as an object that I couldn't really relate to a person.
A condom isn't vulgar, it's an object, a type of birth control made from latex, nothing vulgar in that at all.

With your way of thinking, we could have a conversation about those who sign up with certain names and then run around attempting to wipe them out because they have got themselves into trouble in using them?
We could name the name they were using, say what the name they are using now, suggest alternatives, have a little laugh about it all, say how silly they were.

If you're feeling especially spiteful and vindictive today, then be my guest; however, my folly bears no relevance to the current topic of conversation. If you'd like to call me a moron or something of the like, then start a seperate thread for it. I'll be more than happy to respond to you there.

As for it being vulgar, enough people here had a gut reaction of being disgusted by it that I think it qualifies. You're right that there isn't anything vulgar about latex itself; however, her name didn't say "mundane, everyday method of birth control made of latex". It was explicit, and though it didn't mention any bodily fluids, it still evoked that imagery in people's minds. If I remember correctly, she later explained the reason behind the name. It had something to do with a sexual education class she took, and how hilarious she thought it was when they discussed exploding condoms.

[Caity]

Nothing is wrong with names with numbers, persay. It's just names that make no sense at all often include numbers.

How does it make no sense?  ....

[Paradox]

How does it make no sense?  ....

I wasn't referring to yours, silly! Nor was Elvi. We were more so talking about names like "974fuzm479

[Elvi]

Then there IS no problem with it at all...
We call you Caity and that is what I relate to.
The point I myself was making is that I can't relate to someone who simply 'calls' themselves '123xyz'...

[Greenthorn]

*nudges towards the topic*

Should we ask for a rule that usernames be PG-13?

[Trieste]

Okay. Out of hand. Locked until and unless someone convinces the staff that it should be unlocked.