Relationship Books/Advice

[persephone325]

So, I'm in need of relationship advice. I didn't want just ladies' advice, hence why I'm posting this here. (But if this needs to be moved to a different section, please do so.)

Anyway, I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend. We've been together since about 2019. We met over the internet, so the relationship is long distance for now. We've met in person quite a few times, too. I think we're both each other's first serious relationship, and he's really used to being a very independent person. That's pretty much the backstory.

What I'm looking for is any kind of advice or book recommendation for me/us - specifically about being in a relationship with someone who believes they might have a minor form of autism, and also being in a relationship with someone who thinks they might be asexual. My boyfriend thinks he has both of those things. (Don't know how else to phrase that, so I'm sorry if that statement came across as insensitive to people who have autism, or are asexual. I'm an emotional mess right now. Apologies.)

I'd really appreciate any advice or recommendations. I feel like we're on different pages right now, and we need to sit down and talk to each other.

[Azy]

Communication is very important.  Just remember those 'I' statements.  Like when this situation happens, I feel....  It helps keep the other person from going on the defensive and just making things worse. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZXrIZlQkIc

This is one of the many, many videos on YouTube from Shannon Boodram.  Someone recommended her to me as a relationship and sex expert.  I've been going through the videos trying to learn what I can.  She also wrote 2 books.  I got her second one 'The Game of Desire' on Audible for free with my free trial.  I haven't finished it yet because I haven't had a lot of time to sit and listen to an audio book, but she does give a lot of good advice.   

[persephone325]

Communication is very important.  Just remember those 'I' statements.  Like when this situation happens, I feel....  It helps keep the other person from going on the defensive and just making things worse. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZXrIZlQkIc

This is one of the many, many videos on YouTube from Shannon Boodram.  Someone recommended her to me as a relationship and sex expert.  I've been going through the videos trying to learn what I can.  She also wrote 2 books.  I got her second one 'The Game of Desire' on Audible for free with my free trial.  I haven't finished it yet because I haven't had a lot of time to sit and listen to an audio book, but she does give a lot of good advice.   

Totally thought I had replied to this. lol My apologies.

I definitely subscribed to her. I like her content. Thank you for the suggestion!

[Life in Color]

Hi, Perse. <3

I have *a lot* of anecdotal experience with this.

I'll drop you a DM and we can babble. :]

[persephone325]

Hi, Perse. <3

I have *a lot* of anecdotal experience with this.

I'll drop you a DM and we can babble. :]

Thank you! :-)