I liked the ruleset you put down, Zaer, with the added addendum that ONLY Matrons can take Leadership and Landlord.
As for source material, I'd like to keep psionics out, simply because I think that they're handled in a mind-numbingly retarded way. Aside from that, I can't think of anything I can't bear. I planned posting this topic very poorly; I'm going away this weekend on a camping trip with family and friends. So, everyone throw together 12th level drow characters with a 32-point stat buy without using psionics, and I'll look them over when I get back Sunday or Monday. Any woman can offer to make a Matron, but in addition to the character, they have to lay out background for their House, specialties, etc. I will approve the Houses I want in the game. Anyone who wants to make a noble, don't give them a last name until the Houses have been established.