Well - here are my ons and offs. It's all about fighting and fight-related violence for me, so I am at home in the extreme side. And yes, that fantasy(!) is like sex to me.

The "kinks"

like - the "harmless" stuff

    * story - the most important thing. In a good story almost anything goes.
    * female warriors
        * elves, dark elves, fey
        * sorceresses and witches
        * amazons and gladiatrixes
        * superheroines and vilainnesses
        * vampiresses
        * priestesses
    * danger (The more dangerous, the better.)
    * contrasts (nudity versus violence, unnatural versus mundane, you get the idea)
    * skimpy clothes
    * destroyed clothes / loss of clothes
    * a fantasy edge (most of my roleplays do have quite some fantasy elements to them)

Sex wise, I can't really tell. I don't hate it, but I usually don't focus scenes on sex either. It tends to get boring for me. But as write above, in a story or a good scene, anything can happen. Feel free to tease. I do the same :) Just remember, that what comes below is the heart of my interests.
And male characters and players? No problem with male players at all. But I greatly prefer female characters, no matter which gender of player plays them.

like - extreme stuff

    * fights (especially bloody ones) - this is indeed a "sexual element" for me. And things can be really extreme here.
        * gunplay (including other projectile weapons, or energy blasts)
        * swordplay
        * superpowers
        * and as fights go, I win and lose. I swing both ways. I like the dynamics.
        * extremely violent stuff
    * guro/gore (temporary) (most of my characters have healing powers for this reason)
    * death (temporary preferred) (see above)
    * overcoming challenges (death being the ultimate challenge)
    * watersports (involuntary, often as a result of violence)

I dislike:

    * bondage
    * mind control
    * hypnosis
    * sub/domme stuff (one sided. Bleah)
    * scat
    * vore (although, in a good scene... anything goes!)

Basically my dislikes are either things that bore me or things that tend to make a scene very one-sided.  It's really hard to gross me out. But surely not impossible.

The settings

    * Superhero
    *  Modern Fantasy (I just love to add in some magical stuff.)
    * A Gothic modern world (just imagine our world, quite a bit darker, with fey and vampires moving behind the veil.)
    * classical fantasy
    * anime-themes roleplays

Interests away from the sexual stuff
    * comics (especially superhero stuff)
    * mystery, fantasy and horror movies and TV shows
        * Fringe
        * Dr Who
    * anime and animation
        * Justice League Animated / Unlimited
    * modern fantasy stories
    * imagination
    * writing
    * going to the gym (especially there endurance-training)
    * swimming (I'm not very good at it though)

For my characters and current roleplays follow these links:

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roleplays