To start off I would like to say this is kind of a mini-rant, and as such please keep in mind it might step on toes. I am not writing this for the express purpose of stepping on toes, but more just to let it out of my system before it completely pollutes my thoughts as the individuals who are emo just to be emo are actually quite nice people and I do not want t start having a tainted view of them. I am not writing this in the Rants board simply because this is not directed completely at people in elliquiy but on the internet in general.
Blah, already I am feeling just squicky about writing this but if it continues on without me saying something then I will probably just explode, and that is not good for anyone. Everyone likes attention, even those of us who are a bit shy and really don't want the spotlight on us, it is still nice to get a hug, to have someone ask us if we are ok etc and so forth. Everyone has days like that, and I am not disparaging anyone making random emo comments to gain attention if they do it just occasionally. I do it myself occasionally when I just want someone to pm me and ask "Hey how are you?" so that I don't feel so completely isolated.
There are two different types of bad/annoying attention-seekers. The Drama-queen, who I have already discussed earlier. The are male or female people who simply look for drama, be it concious or unconcious, so that they can be victimized and have everyone feel sorry for them. Then there are those who are just emo to be emo.
For weeks I have started to end my project of self-exploration and trying to become more social simply because of emo to be emoness. It sucks being someone who battles depression and want a place that is light hearted and fun, and only be slapped with two ro three people who insist on coming in day after day after day with nothing positive to say, only negative complaints about how it sucks to be them. Their head constantly hurts, their bosses/parents constantly suck. Now again remember I am not speaking of those who occasionally have a bad spell and need emotional support. I am speaking of those who 1. do this every dayof every week for weeeks on end, and 2. refuse to seek help when help is offered.
I understand that life has its black points, I do, but what I do not understand is if these people do not realize they drag many many other people down into their depressed state of mind when all they do is complain? Probably not, all they realize is that when they come in and flop out their complaints kind hearted people hug and pamper them. Well I am a biiiig believer in Tough Love. The first time, its hugs is there anything I can do? The second time, oh I am sorry your still feeling badly *hugs* anything I can do? The third time, is *hugs* and every time after that if there is no decent amount of time in between the complaints its ignored. Well not ignored, I sit here and sigh and leave where ever I happen to be chatting when I start to feel my own mood to start to crumble.
Sometimes people do need a kick in the seat of their pants to get them over a black period. I know. I have been there. I was forced to see a therapist about ten years ago, and he was big into the tough love. I thought he was just the meanest, most insensitive man there ever was. Until I started to see how I was not helping my situation by moaning and crying and pouting about it. I still deal with depression, but now I know how to recognize the emo symptoms and I know how to battle it.
I do hope that this helps some who might read it, either deal with emoness in themselves (we all have a spark of it ;) This very rant shows that even I am prone to occasional emoness) or deal with trying to be patient with other emo people. And just to let anyone know, I am not spell checking this as I feel that the various spelling errors just enhance the fact that this was a spur of the moment annoyance ridden mini-rant.