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It never ceases to amuse me when someone tells me that they have always thought I was a Dominant person. I giggle when I hear someone say that they are surprised to find that I have a Master and that I identify as a submissive. I have long sat down to figure out exactly why people seem to view me has more dominant then submissive until they get to know me, and I have come up with several reasons, all revolving around perceptions.

In this next part of an ongoing series, since it has been requested by popular demand that I continue further with my blogs on such relationships, I will be attempting to describe the bare bones of the lifestyle. This is the very basics of the lifestyle, not detailed as details should be worked out between a dom and a sub themselves, and not modeled after another D/s relationship no matter how successful.

Since I started writing submissive blogs or blogs on my personal lifestyle choices I have had many pm's with questions in general. I encourage questions, as knowledge is power and I feel the understanding of lifestyles will help others not be forced to hide it, or face ridicule. This blog will be dealing with the basis of a D/s relationship, and throwing down some misconceptions that seem to have arisen.

We all know that in the real world objectifying anyone is wrong. Unfortunately too many people come to the internet and decide it is perfectly ok to objectify a person who is just pixels. This is abundant and rampant on Adult Sites as well. Most of the time just telling someone that they are objectifying a person and not pixels is enough to draw them back in line, but when that person is a submissive it seems so much harder to make people understand it is still wrong.

Ok, so I only do blogs when I really would like to talk about something, but don't really want to post it on the forums for one reason or another. This one, I am still contemplating posting just for the input of other submissive type people.

To start off I would like to say this is kind of a mini-rant, and as such please keep in mind it might step on toes. I am not writing this for the express purpose of stepping on toes, but more just to let it out of my system before it completely pollutes my thoughts as the individuals who are emo just to be emo are actually quite nice people and I do not want t start having a tainted view of them. I am not writing this in the Rants board simply because this is not directed completely at people in elliquiy but on the internet in general.

Respect. What does this mean? According to Webster's Dictionary to have respect means to show willingness to show consideration or appreciation. However there is also the showing of common courtesy of another's thoughts, ideas, or feelings that also tie into Respect. More and more do I see the gradual drifting away from this ideaology. Not just online but in every day life.

Quite a few conversations happen on Elliquiy that are often times quite blunt, forward, and with little censorship. In fact, the only censorship that occurs is the separate Lords and Ladies sections, simply because some issues are often times easier to ask, to discuss, and just generally be tossed around when one is assured that it is only those of the same gender can see. However, much of these communications deal with things that I would think one would be able to be open about with one's Significant Other, or SO. Yet, at times people have stated they were not comfortable discussing this or that with their SO.

Ok first of all let us establish that for this little blot on the blog space, when I say someone is submissive, of the submissive mindset, or otherwise I am talking in general not in just about sexuality. In fact for most of this blog, if it continues on the course I am thinking of at the moment, mostly will be discussing the submissive personality outside of the bedroom. The pros, the cons, and why I -and many more- are wired this way.

Before the Internet was highly used, the age gap that occurs between generations was more prominent, and more segregated if that’s the correct word. One saw it in bars; one saw it in even churches. The "generations" seemed to band together, often talking about the younger "babies or whippersnappers" depending on their generation's terminology, and remarking how things were so much 'better' in their time.

Lets face it, as a human race everyone is 'Emo'. Because we are an emotionally charged species this is unavoidable, it’s the degree of emo-ness that gets to be problematic. Everyone has bad days, and it helps to vent and let off steam, everyone sometimes goes through bad periods in their lives that it seems that everything is crumbling around them. This is fine. This is not emo, unless you repeatedly make topics about such every couple weeks on whatever forum you are chatting. If this happens it might be best if you seek professional help from a therapist, as it might mean you are spiraling towards depression.

My first actual blog-type entry. I, as many, keep a personal diary offline that I try to write in at least a sentence or two at night. I am not sure what I hope to accomplish with that, perhaps something to keep my thoughts alive. This is the first of doing something of the sort in a public area.